Sunday, September 9, 2007

Im In Love

My mind wanders back forth and back again.....
I'm falling deeper than I've ever been.
That walk, that smile, the perfect thickness of a frame.
Legs OHHHH those legs.....
Lips filled to perfection
Not a tad too thick or too thin
Complexion perfect covered in the smoothest skin.
The gentle touch.....
Personality one could only dream of finding in a mate ( i know i do).
Damn......I'm sprung!!
Im in love yall, this is unconditional love.


With who you ask? ME

Tuesday, August 14, 2007

Questions on the brain....Whats your opinion?

It seems like i keep falling off with these blogs but im going to try to get in at least one per month. But anyway.....

Thinking about dating and the relationship game, do you ever wonder what it takes to truly be successful?? What are some of the reasons you think people in our community cant seem to either enter a COMMITTED relationship or if in one, maintain it?

I've been thinkin about this a lot lately as ive come across some really great catches but not great for me. Let's see theres Rodeo, Philly, Bam Bam just to name a few. I think one of the biggest reasons relationships are so hard to maintain is because the community has too many fuckin criteria. Gotta be tall, gotta be short, gotta be dark, gotta be light complected. Gotta have a Lexus, gotta drive a truck what the fuck ever.

I think ive come to a point in my life where im ready to meet compatibility. Im not desperate by any means but i feel like these criteria are limiting the possibilities of excellent relationships. I wouldnt even say its a homosexual issue. Its a Black gay issue. Take some time to look at the community and seee for yourselves. White gays and lesbians start out with getting a dog together, then the car and onward and upward to purchasing cars and homes together. And here we are thinkin were doing it real big by gettin a $1200 a month apartment and having both our names on the lease. Lets see if ya make it through the end of the lease.

Am i the only one that feels this way? Im not saying go out and settle for the next best thing but maybe if we as a community focus on less of the stereotypical no fats no fems bullshit and work on building something maybe even just friendships you might get something good out the deal. Just a lil babbling from my mind.

Thats all for now....I'm gonna go have lunch with a bus-riding, short yellow man, from Memphis, TN and then were gonna go to the petstore and look at dogs before meeting with our real estate agent. LATA lol

Wednesday, July 25, 2007

That Car Had To Go

As many of you who know me personally are aware, im a car hoe! Clarification: i love cars, yet i am not attracted to people for what they drive. SInce i was a little boy i have always had a huge interest in the automotive world. I enjoy working on cars, accesorizing them (of course lol), driving them, listening to them etc. So as you go through some of my blogs you may find some comparisons of people to a car or a feeling i get from cars etc. For example, go back and reread how i spoke in my "Mr. Representative" blog. Now that thats out of the way.....

Thinking about this dating world i compare it to my pursuit of finding the perfect car for me. I recently turned in a 4 month rental i had. I picked it up around earlier in the year just after the holidays. I was feeling good with my new ride, smile on my face, paying much attention to detail, style, and the attention i was getting. The car was on point yall! Curves in all the right places, some aggressiveness under the hood when the pedal was pushed to the floor. Not too flashy yet stylish, had a lot goin on, many buttons to push and i was getting familiar with most of them and knew just when to push them. There was a lot put into this creation no doubt but definitely not more than i could handle, after all i am a car guy!

So i was droppin money here and there and the ride was takin care of me as well, i was happy, comfortable and felt secure. The problem with the ride was there were some mechanics of the car that werent quite normal. You see i like comfort and luxury on my side, not uber-materialistic i just like the availability, call it the norm for me, just what i've grown accustomed to having.

I dont know what it is about me and these cars but i have some crazy ass luck. I always roll with a AAA membership in hand for the just in case. 2 months into things my ride was showing the check engine light, took it in, talked to the mechanic and we were back on the road cruisin. Then theres this noise, flat tire. Give AAA a call we get the car home, new tire the next day but the tire isnt the problem. Something about this car just isnt right anymore. It hesitates, moves slow, malfunctions. I had to grab the keys and go on in and upgrade! Good luck to the next guy who gets that car.

Next time im gettin me a Certified One. Fewer problems for me to deal with!

Peace and stay Blessed


Always,

B Free

Monday, June 4, 2007

Miami and The Power of Forgiveness

SO i went to Miami for Memorial Day weekend. I had an AMAZING time!! So it seems that the boys flock to miami on this weekned to partake in sex, drugs, sun, and whatever else goes down at the host hotel and beyond ;) Well i went with my GBF with no expectations just that i wanted to get away and enjoy my friends. It was truly a memorable wknd. No sex for me tho...could have been but packed next to my wifebeaters and jeans were my morals and soon as i unzipped my bags in the hotel room they jumped right on out of my suitcase lol i wasnt mad though because This is Why Im Hot lol. But nah the real deal is i didnt have the desire to hookup or do what most went to do. I clubbed, i danced, i drank, and ate OHHHHHH and yall lemme tell ya lemme tell ya the sandwiches at the Wild Bean Cafe in the BP gas station are off the damn chain, got McDonalds beat by miles lol. The one downside to my trip is my potential lover shifted things where i didnt wanna go. There were talks about previous relationships and the leftover emotions of such but when i see u with ur ex and it looks like more than friends....leaves a bruh a lil disappointed Momma aint raise no fool. I had no idea the way things would go down but i still had a bomb ass weekend. Im not gonna get into details to protect mine and his friendship but since that trip Ive been evaluating my feelings. 5 years ago at a less mature point in my life i prolly would have bad mouthed you, thrown shade, cursed you out and some more. But im better than that now, on a pedestal some only dream of reaching. I have counted my blessings and have discovered something that i didnt know i was capable of....FORGIVENESS I must say Thank You for giving me that experience. It has made me a better man. Which leads me to my next part of this blog

I have gone through a washing of my ideas of life over the last 3 months. For my 25th birthday i received a book titled 'Conversations With God' and the dvd "The Secret' After finsihing my book and viewing The Secret i have been almost overwhelmed with thoughts and have entered into an overhaul of some aspects of my life. I pride myself on my energies in life and the way i treat people and allow myself to be treated by people. I have come to understand that often times people will do things in your life that may not be so appealing to you. It is at these points where you may choose to hate them forever and hold grudges, be shady, and go to extreme measures only to produce awkward moments, discomfort, and grief sometimes more for yourself than the person its intended to affect. Ive come to realize that acknowledgement is the key to forgiving. Recognize the truth of what is and has been and move forward. It was said on the oprah show of course lol Not forgiving is like drinking poison everyday and hoping the other person dies. The harm is done to self. You have to realize when to let it go!! Forgiveness doesnt have to be about i forgive you lets start over or i love you still. Forgiveness is granting your self the continuation of life and allowing happiness to flood your life. Mahatma Ghandi said "the weak can never forgive, forgiveness is the attribute of the strong" It is 4:45am as i write this and i am proud to say that i am strong and i forgive those who have done wrong, thrown shade, mistreated me, my family, my friends, and affected my life. I must go on now. Somewhat babbling but something i am proud of. I love me and i forgive he and she for that matter. Be blessed...

Always,

B Free

Friday, May 4, 2007

Fear and Uncertainty

My mind wanders back, forth, and back again. Thinking of you brings so many happy feelings and smiles to my face yet im scared. Im scared because you make me laugh, make me smile, and youre the kind of person i just look forward to the next time we get to spend together. Laying in your arms, your gentle touch.....damn I dont know what exactly it is about you but i like it. I'm a little afraid though. I'm afraid that there might be obstacles all of which can be overcome if we both want it that way. What do you want from me? Who are you? Where did you come from? If i clean my pallet of the past will you clean yours? I understand that the past has a direct impact on our present but how much room does that leave for new growth better known as the future? I can honestly say ive spent many nights thinking about taking a walk with you. A walk down future lane. Where will we be a year from now? Will we still talk? Will we be lovers or friends? I dont know what's next and THAT is what i do know!

Always,

B Free

Tuesday, March 27, 2007

Blessed By The Best & Prayin For The Rest

Thank GOD! This is the blog I wrote on my flight home from my Birthday Celebration. With cell phone use prohibited onboard the aircraft, I'm forced to entertain myself. I watched Borat a little while ago on my laptop HIGH 5!! Lol

Now I sit listening to my ipod and thinking about how blessed I am. I have an amazing family, one who accepts and respects me for the person God put me on this earth to be. Many things my family may not understand about me yet they continue to love me. I recently saw a wonderful play with my mother called 'A Day In The Life' *The play is about a day in the life of a Black Gay Man.* and there was one part that stuck in my mind because it made so much sense. There is a scene where one brotha lost his position in the church because they found out he was gay. He told the bishop that he has prayed and prayed to not be gay and that he is accepting himself for who he is. He says that prayer won't change the impossible but that doesn't mean it doesn't work. He follows with an example by saying he can pray everyday for the rest of his life to be a White man and he knows it won't happen but that doesn't mean that prayer doesn't work. My mom found that very interesting as she continues to learn the homosexual side of my life and so she will be able to defeat the many stereotypes that have been cast on the gay community. Thank GOD I have an educated mother, one who is willing to learn and read to better understand that which she doesn't know. As i was writing this blog i received an email from my mother. This is it.......

" B Free,

Being your mother is one of the greatest gifts in my life. It has been inspirational, and full of surprises. more than anything it has been personally you... you in what ever package, condition you present or represent. I am just blessed to be a vital and vibrant part of you and who you are. You can be a little crazy at times and that is a little scary because that is when people say you are most like me.

I will love you always and in all ways- Every day of your life and as long as I am breathing. And when that time comes and I am no longer breathing, I shall then become your guardian angel and will watch over you and protect you from dark days, evil people and those with out your best interest at hand. Have a very Happy Birthday.

I Love you enormously,
Your Fine mother "


Oh so greatful, so blessed, so myself! Stay tuned......

Always,

B Free

I'm A Grown Ass Man and I Feel Great!!

Flying 36000 miles in the sky Delta Flight 723 nonstop from Atlanta to Las Vegas. Sitting to my left is one of the best friends I've ever had. To my right I sit next to another one of the closest friends I've ever had. My flight scheduled to touch down at 8:41pm Vegas time where 2 more of my closest friends will meet me. The occasion.... The celebration of my 25th Birthday and G's big 3-0. I think about the occasion and am flooded with so many different feelings: curiousity, love, joy,happiness all while being deep in thought.

I'm curious as to what the next year of my life will be like. Filled with the love I have from the worlds best mother, the best brother I could ever ask for, a sea of friends who truly love me for me and who want nothing more than for me to be myself. Joy because 2 of my friends whom I don't get to see as often as I'd like will join me for my 25th and lemme tell u whenever we see each other we're guaranteed good laughs, many smiles and lots of jokes. Happiness because I truly realize how blessed I am. Blessed to have the circle of friends I have and family, my family life is one that people could only dream of. Deep in thought because my path has crossed with someone's who has changed my thought process on dating. We'll call him Secret Lover like the song lol.

I don't know where we will go and I'm in no rush to get there because I truly enjoy the current happenings. Mr.......You've taught me soo much in such little time and at times its hard for me to verbalize my thoughts....maybe its a fear of mine to let my feelings out, fear of coming off tooo strong? I truly value you as a person as we continue to build this friendship. Who knew a man of such stature, with a personality so dynamic, a touch that invigorates my mind, body, and soul, and the passion in your life and drive for self improvement, again I ask......who knew that someone like this could be a part of my life? The idea of that is appealing to me to say the least. My Ipod is playing and im listening to the new album by Musiq Soulchild the song titled Ridiculous through and the song is so fitting. So when Secret Lover reads this I would only hope that he will listen to the song, it speaks volumes so just let me know if you don't have the album ;) . Ooooh I can't wait till this Plane lands I'm gonna call my mom, and my brother to let them know that I'm safe then dial up Secret Lover and have our goodnight conversation as we've had since the night we exchanged #'s. Just some thoughts that I wanted to get off my chest before I hit these slots....yippee!! OUCH, WHEW, DAYUM! Lol....Texting a whole blog on the Treo makes your thumbs hurt a lil bit so I'm signing off for now. Love you all, be blessed and be safe.

Always B Free

Monday, March 5, 2007

Opportunity Knocks..... Who Should Walk In?

SO i had dinner with a few friends and my mother a nice italian feast. My mom is delighted to meet a few friends and begins telling many of my childhood stories and how she's watched me grow into a man.

Well after graduating From College and moving back to GA i was presented with an opportunity to enter into the world of Entrepreneurism. As my closest friends know, i don't work a 9 - 5 at all. Sometimes i think about doing it to get myself out the house and kepe myself busy but other times i just sorta pass that idea right on by. My hunger for finding a new job isnt great because this business opportunity, let's just say idont have to ask for money. It is Relationship Marketing, so the catch is some people have had bad experiences with this type of business. As a recent college grad iw as all about trying something to make a decent income with a low investment. As i was told at dinner, i was being stingy because i was not necessarily marketing this opportunty to my close friends. Stingy because i was receiving a decent amount of money and not sharing the information with my friends as to how they can be involved. I guess i just don't want to come across to my friends as B - the sales guy. Id rather have my friends wanna hang wit me without the expectation that im gonna push them into business. So now i feel like it is my position to share the business with those interested but without any pressure. It has been brought to light that this is what i should do. For those of you who asked about it you may go to www.ytbnet.com/bvff2000 and view the presentation. But my reason for posting this blog is to pose this simple question. If you have a great opportunity in front of you whether it be for business, amusement, a date that could be a atch for you and your best friend, or a contest like American Idol, do you feel its best to share the opportunity with everyone or do you quietly sign up and do your own thing?

Wednesday, February 21, 2007

Self Worth and Fine Wine


Like a fine wine gets better with time. Go ahead, spit your game rest assured this nikka neva lame. I do what I do because I can. Do u possess what it takes to make me your man? From the top of my fitted to the bottom of my timbs I hold what it takes to make ya body quiver from the center of your heart to the edge of each limb. Nah not just talkin, I practice what I preach, got mad love to give just let me teach. Who am I you ask? Might be the one for you. Invest a little time and see if it holds tru. Don't front like I'm a thug nah thas not my style. I'm da realest nigga out here jus look at my smile. I verbalize when I'm happy aware of when I'm sad. Trust its in ya best interest not to make me mad. Just one thing before I go. guess i'd better let u know. I'm lovin myself unconditionally, can you?

Tuesday, January 30, 2007

Monday, January 22, 2007

Mr. Representative

Wondering if anyone can relate.... Ever notice how when you meet someone as a potential partner things seem to go so smooth. Ole boy or girl will be on their best behavior and everything seems perfect. Then you start getting those thoughts like wow this has a lot of potential. Could it be what ive waited so long to find? You start to think of all the possibilities, vacations to take, valentines day celebrations and where to take that special someone. What should i buy for their birthday? You accept the fact that you have entered the beginning stages of catching feelings. It feels great, each new relationship always feeling better than the last one. Then BAM, the Representative for that "special someone" resigns from the position. Now you meet the real person. You begin to wonder, is this the real you? Where is all this inconsistency coming from? How long have you been like this? What changed that made ya flip mode like that? Can we bring back Mr. representative? Cause that was the one that i was feelin. Im not all about this new shit goin on!! Kinda like havin buyers remorse lol. So you had a nice lil person you were kickin it with but u thought you found the next best thing so you traded tha old one in for the new shiny one lol. Then you start to think about all you had invested in the last one and how you put your work in to keep things running smooth. The beginnings of second guessing come and this new new doesnt seem like it was a great investment. Fuck i shoulda kept my receipt cause i woulda taken this shit right on back. Awwww shit i just realized somethin. Momma aint raise no fool! She says to me "Baby, never put all your eggs in one basket until you have a chicken or two" Translation......I didnt delete the previous from my life, i maintained communication so im gonna endthis blog and make me a phone call. Talk to you all soon....B Free its not just representative of my name, its how i choose to live! Holla!!

Monday, January 15, 2007

Date...........The Other 4 Letter Word

Just sitting here and started thinkin about how people go about dating. Thinking about the way it is when you date I started to wonder why, if you are kickin it with someone you're really into, would you continue to entertain other options to date. Does this mean that there is an insecurity of some kind and that you are simply preparing for the breakup as u simultaneously prepare for the hookup? If you sit down and name all of the qualities you look for in a partner and u meet someone who may possess say....90 percent of those qualities then why the hell don't u take it and run wit it. I know that everyone isn't for everybody but in that case why string people along? These when its convenient relationships drive me fuckin crazy. AAAHHHHH whew had to exhale lol. I know I'm a good dude, driven, sexy as hell not to mention the fact that I taste just like an Aries but I'm still single. Yall gotta give me some feedback on this one. Tell me how you are when you date and, why you think you date the way you do. I'm chillin over here mad confused, single oh yea and currently dating lol. I guess I'm a little confused on this so I look forward to the responses on this dating mumbo jumbo.

Wednesday, January 10, 2007

Alphabet Soup

Every now and then i get caught in this zone of emotions. I often wonder when i will meet the love of my life, the uptempo to my heartbeat, the beat behind my track. LOL dont ask. But this is just something i wrote to release a little frustration about where ive been and where im trying to go. Not directed at or about anyone specific just an outburst if you will. Thanks for reading and let me know what you think. So here it goes

Intuitive, Intellectual, Innovative, Invigorating..... Just a few of the I's that I possess. With qualities like these why is it that so many seem to look towards me for my L's: My Legs, my Lips, my Lust, but not my Love, my Life experiences, my Loyalty. Just some things that make me wonder. The extremities of this nature that we get so caught up in a sexual fantasy which typically only satisfies for a particular time frame that we dont take the time to get to know. What happened to bowling, an evening walk in the park? Seems like these days tricks want some good dick and a goodbye. Complex or is it? Complex because its so hard to figure out yet not so complex because the sex is simplistic...in the general sense of the word anyway. So what do i do, subject myself to meaningless hookups, or do i continue to be the one with the C's: Communication, Charm, Confidence, and Charisma? Ill take my C's and run wit em cause after that nut all i got is me, feel me? Guess just somethin that was on my mind. Who knew that having morals made life so difficult? Damn shame that i know what im worth, do u know?

Tuesday, January 2, 2007

The End of That Relationship

Exactly a year ago i was introduced to this fine new brotha. Seemed like it was the beginning of what i thought was too good to be true. His name, 2006. Spent many good times together but some of that time i coulda have gone without dealing with. Like any new relationship, you expect ups and downs but its what you get from it that makes things better. Last night our relationship ended because I met 2007 in downtown Atlanta. Cant wait to dive into this relationship. I love life and love livin and yes there's a difference. Wasn't really sure what to write about but this is in fact my first attempt at the blog world officially. Let me introduce you to my friend 2007. Im ready, are you?