Monday, January 15, 2007

Date...........The Other 4 Letter Word

Just sitting here and started thinkin about how people go about dating. Thinking about the way it is when you date I started to wonder why, if you are kickin it with someone you're really into, would you continue to entertain other options to date. Does this mean that there is an insecurity of some kind and that you are simply preparing for the breakup as u simultaneously prepare for the hookup? If you sit down and name all of the qualities you look for in a partner and u meet someone who may possess say....90 percent of those qualities then why the hell don't u take it and run wit it. I know that everyone isn't for everybody but in that case why string people along? These when its convenient relationships drive me fuckin crazy. AAAHHHHH whew had to exhale lol. I know I'm a good dude, driven, sexy as hell not to mention the fact that I taste just like an Aries but I'm still single. Yall gotta give me some feedback on this one. Tell me how you are when you date and, why you think you date the way you do. I'm chillin over here mad confused, single oh yea and currently dating lol. I guess I'm a little confused on this so I look forward to the responses on this dating mumbo jumbo.

8 comments:

life said...

Please get out of my head..I was going to write about something similiar. I'll be back to add my two cents.

ReddMann said...

gay men are too fickle and usually when you do find someone that you are so into... it isnt mutually returned... so sometimes you have to keep your options open until they prove they are worthy of kicking the rest to the side. I think as long as both parties are aware there shouldnt be a problem.

life said...

You know, someone once said "everyone has the love life they want". Basically, we hold ourselves back by the choices and standards we make/have. I never dated a man, so I can't refute Red's comment, but are you going places to meet men? Are you reasonable in your standards? Are you taking chances?

B Free said...

Yea i go places and my standards are very reasonable. Everything i eek i also possess. Taking chances yeah and im cool right now more or less sorting out my confusion if you will

life said...

Idunno...what are you talking about anyway...your dating

Jay said...

unforunately it seems that most men, gay or str8, are always looking for something better and not willing to settle for the good thing that is right in front of them. i wish i knew the answers to gay dating, if i did maybe i wouldn't be single and dating also.

TrinaBeingTrina said...

I like how you put it right out there that you are sexy as hell and got it going on. I can't speak for gay men but the st8 men I know are to intimidated by a woman who has it going on and knows it. I'm not conceited but I let men know that I know what I'm worth and I plan to be treated accordingly. They always say that's what they are looking for but really they just want some ghetto chicken head chick. Maybe some of this applies to gay men also.

That Dude Right There said...

How many people to you know that have gone out on a first date and then it formed into a successful relationship? Probably few to none.

The reason that we date is to find out what we like and dislike. We can't expect each date to turn into something special. And we also have to be honest when we are dating someone, with the person and ourselves. When something works or doesn't work, we have to recognize that and play life accordingly.

Every once in a while we are going to become frustrated (much like I am now), but we should learn from the situation and apply it to life