Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Dating dot dot dot

My mind is just out there right now.

It seems like when im doin my single thing that the good ones are hard to find. You just do you and think that maybe you'll run across a catch and no luck. Then all of a sudden you do find one and its like all the others come out of hiding and flock to you.

I've been consistently dating someone for about 5 months or so and all has been going well. But in these past 5 months about 5 people have pursued me. And im not talkin about on no physical lets get it crackin type thing but on some, i wanna make you mine, husband, boo-ed up type stuff. It's flattering to an extent but then i know what im worth so thats how it should be anyway when they are trying to get at me. Should i expect that for every month that goes on that another will add themselves to my list, like month 6 there will be 6 month 7 there will be 7 and so on?

OMG its crazy!!

How does this dating thing work? If you are dating one particular person for a certain amount of time but there has been no discussion of exclusivity, do you continue to entertain the others? You cant assume that the other is all about you cause we know what it means to Assume lol. Do you "put all your eggs in one basket"? How the hell is this dating thing supposed to work?

Im an Aries, i need attention. Not overly but i require to be admired lol. Not always physical but i need that affirmation. its weird but so what lol. What should i do? What would you do? What would Oprah do?

Call me Confused Calvin cause i dont know lol.


GI said...

I've always heard that once you find someone that folks just start coming out of the woodwork. Hmph...I sure would like to find out. But anyway, when I'm dating someone I expect the first...I'd say...month or so to be a period of truly searching the individual and being searched to get a feel for our compatibility and to really decide if this is someone who I'd like to continue exploring and getting to know. However, I feel like the parameters of our "dating" would be defined from the beginning.

For "myself", if this is someone that I am really really into, I make it clear that exclusivity is my goal with hopes that it would be theirs as well. If "exclusivity" describes the defined terms then I'd say yes, hold on to it and let it continue to grow but if it's not exclusive then that means it's casual and that means it ain't backed up by a thing! Time is precious so we should seek substantial connections that take root and grow.

Do you want exclusivity? Do you want it with him? Ask and answer these questions and then you get his answers to those questions and if they are or aren't aligned with yours then you've got your answer...

Gary T. P. said...

OOOOOO I like homeboy for you...u better act right !!! You know this is atl and its survival of the fittest.... Nevermind...dont listen to me...

thegayte-keeper said...

well you need to have a convo with the man u r currently dating...then go from there

life said...

I'm just starting on this path. You definitely need to have that conversation. What are you expecting from this relationship? What is their expectation? Are we exclusive? Are they entertaining anyone? You've had 5 come for you. A bunch of questions to answer

Mr. Jones said...

Tell me about it. Story of my life.

B Free said...

GI: Momma used to say take yo time young man, dont rush to get old lol but on the real... I do want exclusivity but im not in the business of MAKING people change. They must change because they want to. I have asked the questions but this is a case of actions speak louder than words. And to that, its a good thing i know myself worth. Im bout to pack up and move on lol

Gary: Get on and sat down somewhere lol

Gayte Keeper: Ive had the talk and im not sure were on the same page. Maybe the same book but not the same page.

Life: I know for a fact were not exclusive. They are entertaining others. I guess im just at a point where i feel im at idle. Not a good look when theres so much time invested, feel me?

Mr. Jones: Welcome to my boat. If youre gonna be in it you might as well help me paddle lol

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