Sunday, January 13, 2008

John Doe

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I certainly hope that 2008 is off to a good start for you as it has been an interesting one for me. I took a break from the blog world but i am back. I decided that with my current social life the rejoining of the blog world is definitely in order. As you read my posts please feel free to comment, I love the ideas you all have and are willing to share.

So early December i met a young man who seemed to possess many of the qualities i like in a mate. Affectionate, playful, attractive, well spoken, movie lover just to name a few. For the purpose of this story were going to call him John Doe. John has these mysterious eyes and often times when were together I will catch him with this look of deep thought and then i give the ole "hey what you thinkin about over there?" his response is NOTHING! So your face is lookin like that and u arent thinkin about anything, not even how much laundry you gotta do or what you should have for dinner? Just absolutely nothing right, i doubt it. So were talking/dating whatever it is were doing and let me back up. Upon meeting i introduced myself by name and he introduced himself to me with some initials. You know the "hey wassup, im J.R." bullshit. So for a first meeting thats all fine and dandy. We've been on at least 10 dates and so i get to thinkin about this. I know that your mother did not put no damn J.R. on your birth certificate and after 10 dates i feel entitled to know your real name. He swears that this is not something hes comfortable sharing but for me its like how the hell am i suppose to build a relationship and i dont even know who the hell im talking to. Its not a major in the sense of i want to address him by his government name but damn can i know it. To me it seems almost like he's hiding something from me, or as Corey said its like hes sayin i dont trust your ass. I feel like im getting to a point where this could potentially be a deal breaker for me. I feel like if the next time we go out and i dont end my night with a name other than John Doe or Cunti Joe lol then im gonna walk. And im talkin bout walk like Naomi Campbell does it and start on over. So whats a guy to do? What would you do? How do yall feel about a situation like this? Let ya boy know....


Feels Great To Be Back


Always,

B Free

13 comments:

Valentino said...

Well, I agree with Corey a ittle bit...it seems as though he's trying to hide something or doesn't trust you for some reason...but giving him the benefit of the doubt maybe he's scared that you'll connect his name to something or he really doesn't like his name...Maybe...Maybe...

GI said...

Welcome back to the blog world and welcome me as a new-comer..yay!

Ok, with this John Doe fellow, I have to be honest and say that in between dates 3-5, that real name would've been IN-DEMAND. Honestly, it is a turn off to me for someone to even give me a nickname in our initial meeting. Don't misunderstand, I know there's no obligation to do so but there's just something about it that feels a bit...suspicious and dishonest to me. Anyway...in your case, I don't think it's being any less than fair to know his name. Why wouldn't he want you to know it? What's the big deal? I generally like to see the good in people but any suspicious behavior of the such is not acceptable and it leads me to question his intentions. I say, bring it up once more and if he's not willing to be forthcoming and honest about "his name"(you would think that you're trying to get the social..geesh) then I say you be honest and clear about why you can no longer engage nor invest yourself into a situation of the such. Make it clear. It's just that simple.

GI

life said...

He really needs to miss you with the BS!

C. Baptiste-Williams said...

i have never understood why people hide their names from others unless they dont want them knowing about their past.

It is just a name not like they can go open a Citibank account with just your name... I'd let that one go.

and for the honey comment on my blog... no comment. See you this weekend!

bLaQ~n~MiLD said...

Well I must dissent from popular opinion as I am known to do (ask C. Baptiste...lol). Honestly, when peeps ask me my name, I ALWAYS tell them Dee. Part of it has to do with me being comfortable with you but it also has to do with me not liking my name. I have a weird, uncommon name that I don't care for at all. So when peeps ask me for my name I tell them Dee. And in all honesty, once I end up telling someone my gov't they end up calling me Dee anyway LoL.

I wouldn't count it as a major strike against him or think that he is a CIA operative, but I would task you to just try to give him the benifit of the doubt. It seems to me that if dude has kept 10 consistant dates with you and has not been shady in any other regards, you can wait a few more weeks for his 'official' gov't ID. Just my personal opinion baby boy. Thanks for the comment on my page and I hope you come again (and again and again...oops, wrong type of come...LMAO).

~Damnit! (aka: Dee)

Rahman said...

I say it is what it is don't make it what it aint. Enjoy it for what it is worth my friend but with that being said the real name is important.

I think that most appropraite thing would have been for him to say, "Yo I'm Joe but my friends call me JT". But you know that the way that things play out in our minds are not always how the end up.

Like I said though -- enjoy the moment!

Corey Keith said...

Do enjoy the moment, sexy, but at the same time, realize that you are the catch here and this fool better realize or get to steppin...

HisLoveCoversMe said...

Hey man, Nice blog.

In our personal life we must make a decision regarding what we are willing to deal with and what we are not. Things that may seem small to one person, may be a major hurdle to others.
The goal is happiness and having the strength to walk toward it.

E said...

That is a little weird that he won't spill and you've been on 10 dates. If it's something that really bothers you and he still is being secretive, then I would have to agree with gi and not invest any further with him. If nothing else, if John Doe really wants you in his life, it may force his hand.

D.LavarJames said...

welcome back!

ThisMightBeMe said...

I know this is kinga late, but you have every reason to be skeptical.

That Dude Right There said...

Whether he likes his name or not shouldn't matter, I feel as though he should still tell you. If he's holding onto something like this, you should also be wondering what else he isn't telling you.

Barb said...

Interesting to know.